You'll discover how setting a truly ambitious goal, one that genuinely excites you, completely transforms your sense of who you are and what you're capable of. You'll learn the surprising truth that playing it 'safe' with modest goals actually reduces your chances of success because you don't fully commit or embody the identity needed to achieve them. This clip introduces a powerful question—'What would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail?'—that helps you uncover your true aspirational goals, even if it takes a while to answer honestly. You'll understand that achieving these big goals isn't about 'manifesting' in a passive way, but about having a clear 'North Star' that directs your energy, calendar, and actions every single day. when you choose a goal that stirs your blood, there's a part of you that will assume the identity of someone who's already achieved this goal. you will have a higher probability of achieving an aspirational goal that you're excited about than you will of a more moderate goal. ... you will show up differently. you will assume the identity of someone capable of achieving that goal. you will crowd out unnecessary distractions. you will attract different people on your journey and most importantly you will stay with it a lot longer. What is the first step the speaker recommends for designing a winnable game? According to the speaker, what is a key outcome when you choose a goal that 'stirs your blood'? Why does the speaker suggest that you have a higher probability of achieving an aspirational goal compared to a more moderate one? The speaker contrasts his approach with 'manifesting.' What is his core advice for setting goals? You’ll hear about a powerful moment when Graham hit rock bottom, realizing his whole approach wasn't working, despite pouring everything into it. This clip shows you the pivotal question he asked himself: not 'How can I just work harder?' but 'Am I even playing the right game?' You'll discover his definition of a truly 'winnable game,' where your external success actually aligns perfectly with who you want to be inside. It’s a great invitation for you to reflect on whether you're really playing a game that brings you both achievement and fulfillment. I think I'd been asking the wrong question the whole time. the external success and your internal fulfillment aren't in conflict, but they're actually in the same game. What was the speaker's initial question that he realized was 'wrong'? What was the new, pivotal question the speaker decided to ask himself? According to the speaker, what was the immediate 'gut' answer he received when he asked if he was playing the right game? Which of the following is NOT part of the speaker's definition of a 'winnable game'? You’ll discover why simply following the crowded path won't lead you to your unique success; instead, you need to design your own game, just like the people you admire. You're encouraged to challenge conventional wisdom and ask powerful, unconventional questions to uncover hidden opportunities that others overlook. You'll learn a surprising truth: the real magic often comes from identifying what's already working well and scaling those 'bright spots,' rather than just fixing your weaknesses. You’ll realize the true 'work' isn't about playing the existing game better, but about using your creativity to build the unique capabilities you need to play the game you truly want. The crowded path that is clearly marked is almost never where you're going to find your winnable game. The work is in using your creativity to create the capabilities to play the game You really want to play. When you can find the intersection of a problem that the world that needs to be solved and a place that gives you energy, that's where you're going to find your edge and some might even call this your purpose. According to the speaker, where is your 'winnable game' least likely to be found? What did the speaker realize about the 'rules' in their industry (private equity)? Which of the following is NOT one of the unconventional questions suggested to unearth hidden opportunities? The speaker emphasizes that 'real magic' comes from what action? Where does the speaker suggest you will find your 'edge' or 'purpose'? You’ll hear a striking story about how a previous boss prioritized work to an extreme, penalizing the speaker for wanting to spend time with his mom, which really makes you consider the values your environment might be pushing on you. You’ll then discover how choosing a supportive business partner completely transformed the speaker's ability to balance work and family, highlighting just how much your colleagues can either uplift or hinder your personal life. This clip reveals a powerful realization: how easily you can start to internalize the values of those you're around, even becoming the type of person you once disliked—it’s a stark warning about the subtle influence of your social circle. You'll ultimately understand that the people in your life deeply shape your goals, your values, and who you become, urging you to thoughtfully consider who you choose to surround yourself with. Had I aligned my life with people that had very different values than I did. that's not the worst part..the scariest part is I started to become Larry. the people in your life will shape your goals, your values, and ultimately your identity. So choose the people with whom you share your life very carefully. What was the primary difference in the speaker's experience at Alpine compared to his first job with Larry, regarding personal life and work-life balance? According to the speaker, what was the 'scariest part' of potentially staying longer on Wall Street under the influence of his former boss, Larry? What core message does the speaker convey about the influence of people in one's life? What advice does the speaker give based on his experiences with Larry and Alpine?